How to get through do I get through to him?

[airspritegal]

ok about 2 years ago I started dating this boy and I was really happy but then he got waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to clingy and so I broke it off. A few days later he came back asking me to go out with him again...I felt sorry for him and said yes but then he began to be clingy and to touchy-feely so I said enough and that was it. But now he won't leave me alone! I've tried everything! I've tried ignoring him and he thinks i'm mad at him so he gets worse. i've tried being a B***** to him but he still comes back! He now sits with me at lunch and txts me 24/7 I have said to him "go sit with your other friends and stop txting me so much." but he just does it anyway! please i just need a little help on how to get him to leave me (and my friends...he does the same thing to them to) alone. please...any advice would help me greatly.

[Silent_Wolf]

Tell the school. What he's doing is harassment, especially the texting you AND your friends bit. It sounds like he can't let go.

Also, consider this: You're still pretty young, even if you ARE sixteen. There's a chance that if he did like you, he probably couldn't take the rejection. This should be sending up a red flag. Again, tell a teacher, an adult, the principal, even a police officer of your school has one stationed there.

[Silver_Wolf_Kitty]

Have you told him you don't want to talk? It seems to me that you've failed to do the obvious. Boys are dense, they aren't going to automatically assume no texts and *****iness means you don't want to talk. Right now, from the way you described it, you are giving off an air of anger, not of wanting to disassociating yourself from him. Tell him you don't want to speak first, that is an important step you missed here.

If he continues once you tell him, tell your parents. I've found the school won't do anything. It was happening to a friend of mine and they actually told her she would have to deal with it because it was an "innocent crush" and they "couldn't do anything", even though they know he was prone to outbursts. If you tell your parents, they will help speak to his parents with you and the police if need be. You should tell them immediately regardless and block and remove him from things(from calling/texting you, instant messengers, social networking sites, EVERYTHING!). If you do not remove him from everything, he will simply continue.

Since this could get more extreme, the advice in this paragraph is if he gets worse, though you should follow it now too if he refuses to stop. Tell your friends you don't want them passing messages for him if he is trying to get them to get you two back together again. My stalker ex kept trying that and eventually I had to stop talking to some of my friends too because they refused to respect my wishes about it. Trust me, the peace of mind is well worth it, especially since this desperate stalking can lead to much more. What started out for me as showing up at my door and constantly contacting me led to nasty names and rumors and him even turning off my cell phone and following me around in walmart. Don't let it get that far! It took me until the last one to finally go to the police, they need documented proof of continual harassment. Record messages, save texts and online messages from him, and make a journal. Anytime he calls, note the date, time, phone number, and take pictures of your cell phone screen to prove it. Take pictures of all text messages to your phone and online, make sure you save the entire conversation. Most of all, tell him you do not want to talk and make the efforts to block him.

[airspritegal]

Thank you for the help. but I have told him in the simpelist terms "LEAVE ME ALONE!" and i've said that like 4 times to him pover the course of 1 and 1/2 years but another prob is that he live 3 houses down from my granmother 9whom i visit quite frequently) and so whenever i am over there he watches me out his window.

[LancasterPrincess]

This seems like a serious issue. If you're quite certain you've tried all that you can to rid yourself of this boy on your own then you need to get help with this situation. Take either of Wolf's or Kitty's advice and tell someone. A teacher at school, or your grandmother at home (since she may know his parents better than your parents). Someone will do something if you tell them he's been 'watching you'.

I do need to dissagree with Kitty though. My sister had stalker similar to the one that you have. He would ride his bike several several miles just so he could ride around her work in hopes to glimpse her. He never left her alone, even when she asked him to. She eventually told the school (due to my endless amount of encouragement) and they did do something. They switched classes that they had together so they were seperate (or informed the teacher that they were to be on opposite sides of the room with no contact). The place that she worked at called the police everytime he showed up to stalk her. He eventually got the idea that what he was doing was wrong. They're friends now, years later, but in a MUCH more healthy friendship now that he's grown up and grown out of it.