Boy Trouble: "Does he like me?" "How do I tell him?"

[eros]

I always talk to guys like they are my friends. Heck, I talk like that with everyone. I think it's really easy for me to talk to guys since I grew up with them. Considering all my cousins are boys except for 2, but one was recently born and the other has just started pre-school, so they don't count.

I used to think that dating was a waste of time in school. There's a very good chance that you and the other person will break up so what's the point. But, then again, it's the experience of dating that will help you after you graduate.

[belladoggy]

Originally Posted by eros

But, then again, it's the experience of dating that will help you after you graduate.

This. Lacking that experience makes me question what's gonna happen when I finally do enter into a real relationship...although I guess I never dealt with high school ones since, well, teenage boys tend not to be the smartest, most mature creatures on the planet..I mean, they are human after all

[eros]

If you've read my previous comments, I think it's safe to say that this guy likes me. We've been talking to each other a lot and I've been thinking about making it official. First, let's start off with what put it in motion.

My little brother has been trying for months to guess who my crush is. I finally told him, but I also made him promise to not tell this guy. Lo' and behold not even a week after I tell him, he goes blabbin to my crush. I was really mad at my brother and sort of disappointed that he told him. But it turns out he likes me too!

Now to the present. We don't talk on the phone much, but we do text quite a lot. And we see each other every Sunday and Wednesday night. Last Sunday I got a text from him asking if he could talk to me after church on Wednesday. I'm pretty sure he's going to ask if we can become a official couple.

Okay, here is the trouble. I seriously like him and he likes me, but last time I got in a relationship NOTHING happened. We dated for about a month, but there was no holding hands, walking to class, movie dates, or romantic anything! The boy was my friend at first and I think dating just made everything awkward. After we broke it up he acted like a jerk. I'm just afraid it might happen again. Any advice?

[TheHayleyDoll]

I was in one of those relationships in high school (mid-Grade 10). It lasted about a month as well and even though the guy had been in love with me since we met on the first day of high school, when we started "dating" he was too afraid to try anything. We had been super close friends, and he was going through a difficult time with family problems, and I foolishly mistook my caring friendly feelings for a crush. I realized almost right away that I didn't feel for him in that way, which is why I never made a move back. He ignored me after that, and I ended up murdering our friendship afterward by getting too friendly with his best friend. HUGE mistake, but it made me who I am today. Mistakes are learning experiences.

Maybe something like that factored in to your previous relationship (one not having feelings for the other)? You may as well give it a go anyway, since you both like each other. When my now-husband asked me out I was in love with someone else, but I gave him a chance anyway. Best risk I've ever taken because I realized he was way better than that other guy. <3

IN SUMMARY, you'll never know unless you try, and even if it doesn't work, people learn and grow from making mistakes. ^_^

[eros]

Thanks Haley for the advice!
Turns out he just wanted to tell me he liked me. WHAT THE CRAP, I ALREADY FREAKIN KNEW THAT!! Haha sorry. I was expecting him to ask away. I was so nervous when he was telling me though. When he came to church he was dressed in his pilots uniform. (He's in a flight academy) And my friends were pressuring me and in my face, and not to mention one of them was eating Funions. (Bad breath XD) I eventually went outside and talked to him!