virginity

[belladoggy]

Miranda, have you by chance ever read Jude the Obscure by Thomas Hardy? Everything about it is about marriage being an awful thing that ruins loving relationships...the author really didn't like marriage, particularly the way it was in the (I think) 19th century.

Anyway, I'm mostly clinging to my virginity because number one, I've yet to be in any form of a serious relationship, and number two, I'm Catholic, so it's just kind of a thing, I guess. Mostly the first one. I do think waiting until marriage is a bit romanticized though...haha I'm pretty sure the reason my dad waited was because my mom was literally the first girl he ever dated, and they got engaged within a year, but were both out of college when they met, so it wasn't weird that things went quickly for them. A year and 9 months later, I showed up. Haha, when my mom broke to news that she was pregnant with me to my Grammie, her response was "No you're not! You were gonna wait!" lol so much for that xD

[D3SP0]

Yes, it is my opinion. My beliefs. But it's also my family's religion. I think it's fine though if you're in the relationship for a long time, so you know you love eachother and you want to be with eachother for sure, then sex would be an ok choice. I'm just saying, to me, it'd be best if you were married. But what's really bad in my eyes is when people start having sex the first week they're in a relationship.

[Silver_Wolf_Kitty]

That somewhat made me laugh because two friends of mine just casually had sex together this weekend and probably will never date. I know a lot of folks who do, it'll become more common as you get older. Its not something for you, and neither is it something for me since I'm settled in a relationship, but these people like having casual sex. They are safe about it, using both birth control and condoms, so I have nothing against it since, yes, sex doesn't just have to be about a relationship and feelings. It can just be about the fun that comes from it. When you are older, you'll understand more why how special sex is to you depends on how much emphasis you put on it.

Just some fair warning though, don't be disappointed if it doesn't live up to your dreams. The first time very rarely is amazing, especially when you are talking about a dream that probably includes also being with a virgin guy. I know, my boyfriend and I both were. We had a very disastrous first attempt where I ended up crying because of how badly it didn't work out and neither of us knew what we were doing. It was only time and patience that made it work and we were lucky that we were compatible sexually. I would've hated to discover we weren't after marriage because your physical relationship is important to working things out.

[delly1]

I lost mine when I was 15 years old. Did I regret it a tad? Maybe a little but on the brighter note it gave me some experience XD. I believe that its important to have sex before marriage with some one whom you are thinking of spending the rest of your life with. Reason being, bad sex just sucks simple as that and if you two aren't connected strongly in the bedroom its going to be one long boring trip together.

I have been with my man for about 5 years now and now engaged to him. I found its very important to have a healthy sex life because it does help by bringing us closer.

[Miranda_]

I certainly don't think that girls should just leap into bed with the first guy who shows them any attention, unless what they want is just a one night stand. If you want a relationship with someone, it's best to wait til you know them better before taking such a large step.

Sadly, there are a lot of girls who sleep with a boy cuz they think that if they do so, he'll stick around, or cuz he's emotionally blackmailed her with "you would if you loved me". That's a bad idea, and people need to have more respect for their bodies and their beliefs.

If a boy loves you, he'll wait til you're ready. And certainly get on the pill and get condoms sorted out. Here's a clue; if you find the idea of asking a chemist for condoms to be embarrassing, then you're probably too immature to have sex.

[fabulous_doller24]

I'm scared it'll hurt?

[Silent_Wolf]

I'm just gonna leave this here:

It wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. Actually, found it kind of hilarious when things didn't work quite properly but that's just our personalities I guess. Things are fun though. ^^ Make it fun, don't be afraid to laugh or goof up.

[blue_tornado]

I agree with alot of people who have mentioned how upsetting it is that young girls the age of 12 or just older have lost their virginity. i mean at that age Thats the last thing i thought about! and that's the age your still a kid having fun, so innocent and much to learn about people and who is good to be around and who isn't. when you get older you get wiser, you either learn from bad experience or get a heads up my your mother (most likely) we don't always listen but sometime it really pays of speaking to your mother about when your thinking of sex or getting close to a guy.

I lost mine at the age at the age of 15 or 16 i think, and i wouldn't change it for the world. with my first love we went out for 2 & a half years, we both loved each other and always will, we arnt together now but we are friends and he will always mean alot to me. it was a first for both of use, it wasn't planned it just happened and it was perfect. I'm always glad i'm lucky i got a good first experience as i know of many friends & people who have either been drunk, it was outside, they were used. ): it's upsetting. I respect people who say they are waiting until they are married but that has never been my idea, it was with someone i loved and was a truly good guy i hoped it would happen with and that's what i got. (:

[Danica_Shardae]

I was 16, I am now 21. I kind of regret losing mine, but it was with the person that I'm still with today. We've been together for 8 years and I don't think I'd change a single thing about that. c: I have since been put on birth control. Just in case. o_o"

[spirit_queen]

My first time with my girl was more... funny, I guess. We had no idea what we were doing, so we sorts made it up, then laughed at ourselves. I guess since it was so spur of the moment and since we admitted we had no idea about, well, anything, it wasn't as disappointing.

I feel that sexual preferences are very comme vous voulez- meaning however you like. It's a very personal thing, and to interfere (either by slapping someone with a Bible either literally or metaphorically or commiting any sort of rape/molestation) is just plain wrong. People deserve happiness in this one aspect at least, because, oft times, it's the only part of our lives we feel we can completely control.