Anyone Swing The Other Way?

[xZOMBIELAND]

i consider myself bi, although i've never been with a girl.
i'm 17, and i have a boyfriend but i check out girls all the time.
so i'm not sure its a phase, but whatev.
i mean, i would like to be with a girl, but none of them in my town are "my type."
i also have not come out to the world. i mean a few people know.
a couple friends, and my bf.
i'm not sure how my family would feel if/when i come out.
i'm kinda nervous about it.

[Mathiea29]

I've known I was 'different' since I was a little kid. It took me until age 8 to realise there was a real attraction to the same gender. I'm boy crazy, and I admit it. My friends call me that. (But they don't know, that in secrecy, I'm quite girl-crazy, probably even MORE than boy-crazy. ) They don't know I'm bis3xual, but two days ago, I came out to one person I knew in real life. Only one, and I told her over an e-mail on a site called Neopets, and I told her in code. The girl is so innocent and pure she didn't understand my code, so I had to send her to Urban Dictionary with one of the code words, before she understood. XD I didn't know how she would react, but I knew I could trust her of all people. She took it okay. I'm know trying to work up the courage to tell other people. My best friend, who I have had a crush on since before I ever was her friend, for instance. I'm not going to tell her that I like her, though. I don't want to tarnish our friendship. XD

The people I'm most scared of telling are my parents and family. Mom and Dad say that they would be fine with it, but I know them, and they don't 'walk the walk'. As for my 17 year old brother, he makes 'f@gg0t' and 'dyk3' jokes. Of course, he likes g@y men to cut his hair, so . . . I do know that my brother is a joking guy, and that's just what I hope it is: Jokes.

But I'm so scared. So scared.

I'm moving to a new town in a year, and plan on coming out to some of the school this year, and a year of hate is fine. I'm hated on already. Why should I care? I shouldn't, but I do.

Of course, I'm only 13. People are gonna say, "You are 13 years old, how would you know what you are!? You don't know anything about attraction or love or anything! "

In all honesty, many GLBT kids have it figured out long before their straight counter-parts. Many know they are different, and it takes them longer to figure out what, but when they do, some go through denial, and eventually realise it's true.

It isn't easy being a GLBT kid. But what so many people don't understand about me is this: I know what I am. It isn't a phase, it's always been there. I was born this way. And for a long time, all I wanted was to be straight. I never wanted to be hated by society. Yet I am.

Currently, I like a girl. I don't currently like a guy. I like my best friend. I liked her before she was my friend. I love her laugh, her smile, her bubbly personality, her half-hispanic, half-caucasian complexion. I love the freckles on her full, big lips. I love her personality. I like it when she sings, regardless of how bad it is. Only, I think she's straight. She has this crush, who she is having trouble getting over. Sometimes I wonder, though. She doesn't always act like a 'normal'(whatever that is, XD ) straight girl does, so I have to wonder. I wish she liked me back, but I know the odds are very slim of that ever happening.

Sometimes I still want to be straight. But I know that it isn't going to happen. Not being straight is like nature's way of curbing the birth rate.

[Miranda_]

It's still best not to come out and say you're either way, or bi, when you're only thirteen. I know that a lot of people who are that age or younger are sure that they're in love, or that they know what sexuality they are; but trust me; you won't know for sure til you reach adulthood. I have a friend who experimented with girls when she was a teenager; however, she was not a le'sbian, just bicurious. She's settled with a guy now, and is glad that she left it open til she was sure.

I know it seems patronising or dismissing to hear stuff like this, but trust me on this. Also, unless you are 100% sure that your school is going to be fine on this, don't come out or tell loads of people. There are hundreds of kids who end up being beaten up, bullied or driven to suicide due to coming out at school, cuz kids can be horribly cruel and a lot of schools don't do their duty as far as stopping them from victimising people. Wait til you've left school and are at least eighteen; that way, too, there won't be as many people saying it's just a phase if you wait til you're an adult.

[Mathiea29]

I'm only going to tell the few people I can trust.

[Always_And_Forever_MeGeek]

I'm not sure.I've been attracted to girls for sevral years.My friends make fun of Homos and one of my guy friends got beat up because he stood up for bi's and lezzies.I don't want to come out because I'm not sure.Any advice?

[Miranda_]

You're only thirteen so it could just be a phase. Is there anyone you can talk to, like an aunt or something?

[Silver_Wolf_Kitty]

I agree that this could be a phase. I went through a similar one. I'd say hold off on it unless you are absolutely certain because otherwise it can and will cause you a lot of problems. You may find in another year or so that you are no longer attracted to girls, which isn't all that unusual.

[KaraKupkakex]

I looked for a thread like this.
*coughs for big speech*

Alright ,im in no way into girls,but i do respect people who are.
Im straighter than a straight line..
Heres something i dont understand..
Why 13-14 year olds keep saying that there Bi,
i mean your how old? i dont mean to sound rude but..
Theres atleast 5 chicks at my school who say theyve made out with a girl..
I have once.. Never again,so awkward.. Im only 13, i dont know
what will happen in the future , but all i know i want my future with guys.
Like theres this girl in my class, (Im in gr.7 btw)
She said shes dated 2 girls, and uhm did stuff with them..
i was like wtf, litterally said that out loud..
all i could say is,its just a phase your putting yourself through and
one day maybe youll stick to it..but you might regret it.
theres no guys who say there Bi or Ga.y ..at my school..
Wttttfff.
why is it only girls?!
pretty much what im wondering..
is why is everybody saying this..

[Miranda_]

Sadly, there are a lot of girls who think that saying that they kiss girls will mean that boys will like them more. It's extremely pathetic and sad, and just makes it all the more harder for those who genuinely feel that way cuz they end up being lumped in with these saddos.

Also, a lot of teens go thru phases where they might have crushes on the same sex, but may end up being straight. That is why there is no point whatsoever in a thirteen year old girl proudly proclaiming that she's bi, just cuz she's crushing on her maths teacher or cuz she's kissed her best friend. In a few years, she might have gone thru the phase and out the other side straight.

Finally, some immature little girls have a tendency to copy their favourite celebrities in everything they do; remember that Britney/Madonna kiss? They see one of their idols kissing other girls so they feel they have to do likewise. When, eventually, they grow up, they won't feel the need to copy celebrities so much and will hopefully get a life of their own, not one that is just a poor imitation of Britney Spears, for example.