Tiny little problem! Help wanted!

[Lolo27]

This is going to be a long thread...

So theres this guy i've liked for a prettyyy long time, lets call him Mike, and we are really good friends. We have this party type thing at our school before summer holidays and this guy asked if i wanted to go with him. He didn't mean it as a couple because he has a girlfriend, he just meant to walk with me there.

Anyway he was waiting for me outside my house, and when i came out he told me his girlfriend, lets call her Lianna, couldn't come because she was sick or something. well anyway we were deep in conversation and he suddenly grabbed my hand. I didn't do anything because it was awkward. Once we got there he let go. Nothing happened at the party.

I thought i would be going to New York for a month so i invited my friends round so we could say bye and stuff. Mike was waiting around for a while. When my last friend left, he leaned in towards me and hugged me really tight without saying anything. I looked at him and smiled like you would and just as i was about to say "I'll miss you too" He bent down and kissed me! I didn't stop it because i like him. He stopped for a minute and stood back and just looked at me then left through the front door.

When i came back from holiday a week early we didn't really talk. Two days ago this guy asked if i would be his girlfriend and i said yes presuming nothing else would happen between me and Mike. Ihn Spanish class he was sat next to me and kept blanking me. So i said "Mike, whats wrong? Stop being so stupid you've got no reason to ignore me" So he shrugged and laughed and said sorry he was only joking.

Then yesterday in the park i went round for a walk with my boyfriend and Mike ran up behind us and pushed in between the two of us. He had left Lianna sitting on a bench. Mike put his arm round me and kept walking. My boyfriend got really mad and asked him what he was doing and why he acted like he was in love with me all the time. Mike quite rudely told him to beep off and then went back to Lianna.

So later that night, my cousin Adele text Lianna because they are sort of friends. Lianna told Adele (AdeeJade_X) that she broke up with Mike. And then today at school he brought me to the side and asked if i would go out with him. AAAAAH!

Its so frustrating because i didnt mention how two weeks before anyyything happened, i had asked Mike out and he said 'no' and laughed at me. Then his grandma died and he suddenly loved me. I let it slide because he hadn't told anyone but...grrr!

Next week my friend is having a party and he is going to be there, and i don't know what he'll do! Please help!

[Julieanna]

Well you obviously like him ,and if he is showing all of these signs that he likes you you should go out. If you and that other giy are going out, try and explain to him that well...you like someone else and your sorry, or just break up with him. You should go out with him,.. I think it's soooo romantic,..your lucky ,and don't let this oppurtunity slip away. if you say no ,and act like nothing happened, then later realize you made a mistake ,and change your mind. he might not say yes.....time changes things,...I know so don't let it happen unless your ready for that.

[spirit_queen]

I say no. If he's willing to just rudely show affection for you in front of both your boyfriend and his girlfriend then as soon as he likes someone else he'll do the same to you.

Besides, say you already gave him a chance once, and that he laughed in your face. He sounds rude to me, and inconsiderate of other people; don't tolerate someone like that. you can remain friends, but I'm not sure you should date him if he's so openly rude when he's triyng to get what he wants.

It's your decision, of course. Just keep in midn when you want to date anyone that if he treats other people rudely for no reason and is only nice to you (and even then, only certain times) then he's not gonna be a good boyf. Find a man who's mature and polite, raher than just cute and/or funny.

[Lolo27]

Thanks everyone. I said no to him but he's started being really horrible to me and my friends. I dont mind him being horrible to me, im not bothered, but my friends haven't even done anything.

[Silent_Wolf]

I would honestly report him to an adult; he's being incredibly immature and it sounds to me like he's trying really hard to blackmail you into going out with him by hurting your friends. Guys like that should NOT be messed around with.

[spirit_queen]

Wolfie's completely right. Tell him you won't accept this crap from him (not exactly in those words, word it so that you sound eighty times more mature than him), and that if he doesn't stop, that you'll report him for harassment.

Yes, that's harassment. And you shouldn't let it go on at all, especially when he's involving other people.