Stuck in a love triangle.

[TechnoMayhem]

Mmkay, I guess its more like a circle?
xD
I am engaged(yes at 15, no comments please), and yesterday my best guy friend confessed to me he loves me, seriously it left me speechless, NEVER has a guy confessed, I am still shocked.
But I feel bad, because he is always saying how love hurts and all the stuff, and I tell him not to say it. He likes to put his arm on my waist or try to grab my bum if I hug him(I beat the crud out of him for it)
I don't know what to do, I really really love my fiance, but I also want Bruno to feel happy to and not all depressed.
>.<
And if Alvin(my fiance)finds out, he will get extremely upset, he already thinks I'm cheating on him with Bruno.
-_-
(none of these guys are on the doll palace!)

[TheHayleyDoll]

I knew two people who engaged once at fourteen (not an arranged marriage) and it didn't work out... Anyway, I won't comment on it. Though, unless it is an arranged marriage, it seems weird for you to tie yourself down to one guy at such an early age when you should be out having fun.

Well... this is a toughie. However, if you were sure enough about your fiance to be engaged to him, you should already know that you need to tell Bruno you don't feel the same way. Let him down gently, that whole thing.

Make sure you tell your fiance that you aren't cheating on him. If he doesn't believe you, then he's not a very trusting guy, is he?

[TechnoMayhem]

Originally Posted by TheHayleyDoll

I knew two people who engaged once at fourteen (not an arranged marriage) and it didn't work out... Anyway, I won't comment on it. Though, unless it is an arranged marriage, it seems weird for you to tie yourself down to one guy at such an early age when you should be out having fun.

Well... this is a toughie. However, if you were sure enough about your fiance to be engaged to him, you should already know that you need to tell Bruno you don't feel the same way. Let him down gently, that whole thing.

Make sure you tell your fiance that you aren't cheating on him. If he doesn't believe you, then he's not a very trusting guy, is he?

I suppose and I already tried letting him down.
x.x

[Miranda_]

Your fiance being so jealous of you to me is a huge warning sign. Are you sure you want to marry someone who can't even trust you over this? You're too young anyway to settle down; the way I see it, if you've got forever, then you can wait a few more years.

As for the boy, if letting him down gently doesn't work, you'll have to be blunt. Don't be rude, and don't humiliate him in front of everyone.

[TechnoMayhem]

Originally Posted by Miranda_

Your fiance being so jealous of you to me is a huge warning sign. Are you sure you want to marry someone who can't even trust you over this? You're too young anyway to settle down; the way I see it, if you've got forever, then you can wait a few more years.

As for the boy, if letting him down gently doesn't work, you'll have to be blunt. Don't be rude, and don't humiliate him in front of everyone.

Yes I know Miranda, I know I'm too young so I told him we would get married later, like a late marriage.
:]
and he understands, but now my friends are trying to force us together.
-_-
today andrew(both his and my friend)tried to make him kiss me, so its all dramatic to me

[LancasterPrincess]

I was engaged at 16, granted that didn't last, but I was also engaged at 17 and that's the guy I'm married to right now (I'm 20 now, and we just celebrated 2 happy years being married.) A lot of the time young engagements and marriages don't work, but that's not to say it can't happen.

As for your love circle thing: Let him down easy. Tell him you're engaged and that if he loves/respects you at all that he'll understand. Also let him know that' he's quite a catch and that it'll probably be no time at all before a girl finds him and adores him for who he is.

Oh and I think you should tell Alvin how it goes so you can prove to him there's no cheating and so he'll feel more secure.

I should also mention that it's normal for guys to feel jealous about your best guy friend because sometimes the bond is a little closer. I would know, this same EXACT thing happend to me, with the guys I was engaged to. Only difference is that I chose the friend, and not the guy I was with.

[Miranda_]

Maybe natural, but jealousy of any extreme should not be tolerated, cuz doing that will just make the guy think he has every right to lay down the law and try to control his girlf. Unless it's nipped in the bud now, he's going to be even worse once the ring is on her finger.

Also, with all due respect, that's just you. Statistics are against you; out of all the people I know of, both in family and friends, only one couple who were engaged as teens are still together; my parents. One girl who was engaged to her childhood sweetheart married him in a rush and was divorced. She went on to marry and divorce twice more, and is now in a settled, but unmarried, relationship.

No-one's saying that it has to end in disaster, but there's no point having a dewy eyed viewpoint of marriage, especially when there's warning signs such as jealousy and refusal to trust one's other half. That's why having a long engagement is best, ie decide to marry only in your twenties after being engaged at 15; like I said, if you've got forever, you can wait a few more years before tying the knot.

Edit: Thread cleaned up on behalf of Techno, who's thread it is. Can we all play nicely from now on, m'kay?

[TechnoMayhem]

Thank you Miranda and yes lets not fight okay?
:]

[LancasterPrincess]

Have you talked to Alvin before about the jealousy? Telling him once, twice or even a hundred times that he doesn't need to worry usually won't work. He needs to know it, not just hear it. Most likely he suffered in a relationship before you and needs reassurance in the opposite s3x. I think that once he finds out that you were loyal to him with Bruno that he'll really see that he can trust you. And I also think that once he knows you turned him down that he won't be jealous of Bruno anymore.

I hope you 3 get everything worked out in all areas! And good luck with everything!

Thanks Miranda

[Julieanna]

It's not right for him to get jealous especially if you,and bruno are just friends. You just need to tell him that your not cheating on him, if he doesn't trust you well then thats not good, because a relationship without trust isn't much of a relationship at all. if you too plan on getting married ,and he still doesn't trust you,then what r u going to do...