Help please? Bad guy problem.

[shaami66]

So there's this guy. He's gorgeous. And I never thought he'd like me. But one day(at a party), he kissed me. I didnt think anything of it tho. I thought it was just a one time thing.
Then the next day(at another party) we talked. And he said he really liked me. And I liked him. So we kind of hooked up. Nothin too far tho. Then he asked me on a date, and I said yes. But on the date night, I missed him, and I saw him leave but I couldnt catch him. So he thought I stood him up.
That night we talked again. And he asked me on another date. So I, of course, said yes. But that day, everyone was tellin me that he just wanted to get laid. So the night of the date he was like 5 minutes late, so I left. And stood him up again.
After that, he sent me a message telling me how much he really liked me but he's just gonna back down cuz its not fun to get stood up. So he just wants to be friends. And that message made me feel horrible. I actually started crying(which is a shock for me cuz everyone tells me I have no heart).
I think I really like him. And I want to go out with him. But I dont know if he'll try again.
Anybody have any suggestions on what to do?

[Silent_Wolf]

Well, for one thing, you're not exactly giving him a chance; five minutes late? Sweetie, that's nothing compared to how late some guys can be to a date.

[Miranda_]

Exactly; looks to me like you missed the boat on this one... and you can't really blame him, can you? If he'd been half an hour late, you'd be justified in leaving. But five minutes? Give me a break. Face it, you were a total cow to him by standing him up twice in a row and he just won't take it any more. Why should he, when you might do it again? You can try to talk to him, but seeing as he's probably feeling hurt and humiliated cuz the girl he liked stood him up twice, I doubt he'll want to try a third time, in case you do it again. Next time, don't be so impatient and if a guy is five minutes late; then wait for him. No-one's saying you have to wait forever, but at least 15 minutes. Would you like it if a guy stood you up for being a couple of minutes late?

[TheHayleyDoll]

I was thinking the same thing when I read it. 5 minutes isn't a long time, especially when guys have very poor internal clocks, and most are late for a lot of things. Actually, I'm not sure if 5 minutes is considered "late". xD If you do get another shot, then make sure to wait longer. =P

You really should think about why he would just want to be friends instead of instantly getting upset. I'm not sure I'd give you a second chance.

My friend once gave this guy another chance for not showing up to a date. It was a double date, and I was there with my boyfriend of the time, and she felt very third-wheel like. After the movie, she said she wouldn't give him another chance, but she did and they continued to date. Then, she was stood up again, and she STILL dated him. Now that they've broken up, she laughs at how stupid she was to stay anyway.

Bottom line; being stood up hurts. I understand why he wouldn't want to go out anymore. Not everyone gives second chances after something like that. You're probably going to have to move on.

[tadfoal]

only 5 minutes?
Geez.
Last date my boyfriend and I went on, he was about 20 minutes late. Turned out his dad (who had dropped him off at the cinema) couldn't find a park.

My point, 5 minutes is nothing. You *did* stand him up.
If you really want him back, I'd go apologise. A lot.

[Catlover642]

Tell him that your sorry. Tell him your side of the story. You never ment to stood him up so tell him!
-Cat