Kids acting GROWN??

[BitterSkittles]

Most of you probably won't know what I'm talking about when I say "Kids acting Grown?". But this is a very serious topic that I've been thinking about for months now. Have any of you noticed (especially you adults and older teens) that kids as young as 9 and 10 are acting like 18-year-olds? Have you noticed how kids are starting to curse and yell at their parents? Have you noticed that young girls are getting pregnant (not by rape)? Have you noticed that young teens are starting to wear midriff tops and thongs? WHY? Why can't it be like the old days? Back to where teens had fun with jump rope and hopscotch and barbie dolls? Back to where middle and highschool couples helped eachother study in school instead of making out in front of the teacher? WHAT HAPPENED? To me, it seems as though as the years get higher, the younger kids act more grown. I go to a middle school and three girls (two in 6th and one in 8th) have gotten pregnant last year. Almost half the girls in the 6th and 7th grade weren't virgins and it was probably even worse for eith grade. These things make me scared for the future. Considering to the conditions now, in twenty years 6-year-olds might start loosing their virginity, even though they might hardly know what it is! Comment and tell me your opinion!

[Silver_Wolf_Kitty]

I've been reading up on this phenomenon, which is slowly coming to be known as the Lolita Effect. The idea is that the media plays a large role in the fact that young girls, and boys, are growing up so fast. Heightened levels of sexual activity on TV, games, etc, not to mention the growing acceptance that being thin is the only way to be pretty and other such crazy things is what has been pinpointed as the reasons why this is occuring. I have to personally agree.

Take, for instance, the simple matter of Barbie and Bratz dolls. Barbie is able to do anything, but you only see her the same way. Blonde, blue-eyed, and with body measurements that would cause her to be unable to walk. Then we look at her competitor, the Bratz dolls. Of equally unrealistic measurements, these dolls serve no purpose except to teach young girls how to be "sexy". Just walk into the toy aisle at the store and you'll see exactly what I'm talking about.

While part of this is from the media, it also is from parents not taking responsibility. Sadly enough, sex talks need to come at a much younger age, but parents fail to see the differences between their era and the one which is approaching.

You might find this article interesting. I know I did. Just a warning, some sexual terms are within, so it is slightly sensitive material. Nothing inappropriate, just different, very common situations society is seeing now.
Grade-school Lolita: ‘So Sexy So Soon’ - Back to School - Today.msnbc.com

[Aihana_]

I noticed that alot last year. I saw a 6 year old wearing a tube top!
I even asked her if her mother let her wear that and she said she didn't care.
I see alot of little girls dressing inappropriate for their ages and it is sick.
there are a lot of parents who don't bother being strict on the children and the children get into alot of trouble later on.

[jordanashley]

I noticed it a lot in my dance class the last few years. All the girls would wear these VERY short shorts and skirts that even showed some of their underwear at times, and not only were they short, they looked super tight. These two girls really made me wonder what they'd grow up to be like. One was older than me, and I think she's maybe a freshman or sophmore in high school now. She always wore these really...well...****ty looking clothes. Another girl, who is younger than me and I think was in 2nd grade last year wore makeup like eyeliner and mascara. Her clothes weren't all that appropriate either. And on top of that, she had a real attitude and had pretty rude insults, especially for a girl her age. But it's not like she used curse words.

[delly1]

I have been noticing this as well their are a lot of young ladies getting fake i.d. to get into bars and clubs all the time lately and their attire is really sad especially when there is nothing to hold it up....

[xxDezeyxx]

My old friend[my mom babysat her] when we were in kindergarten, started wearing the plastic heels, tube tops and mini skirts. For a six/seven year old?
And her mother was studying to be a shrink? The worst part was her little sister was 3 at the time, and her favorite word was mother *****r. She would curse out her mom all the time. While they lived in apartments, there was a sycho that lived under them, the 3 year old would run out of the house about 3 in the morning everyday, blast music and jump on the hood of her mothers car.
That is messed up.

[Ophelia_Ragamuffin]

Yeah, I've noticed - it's kind of hard not to notice now, actually. I remember when I was about eight we lived next door to this family with a little girl who was two or three years younger than me. We played from time to time, but I always thought she was really annoying. She would talk back to her mom and say things like, "Oh my God, mom!" and walk out of her front door in a huff. She used that tooth-whitening stuff from crest, wore belly shirts, and sometimes when we were playing barbies she'd want them to have sex or talk dirty to each other. She was five/six years old. Her mother fed them pancakes for dinner sometimes, and she learned lots of curse words from her older brothers. Almost every kid in that neighborhood was effed-up (in varying degrees).

This also reminds me of last year, in eighth grade. There were a lot of people who bragged about making out with their boyfriend and almost losing their virginity and stuff. Especially in science when we were talking about STDs. The teacher was suggesting that we go home and ask our parents how to put on c*ndoms, and this guy in the back of the class said something along the lines of, "if I did that my dad would be like 'boy, you're in eighth grade and you don't even know how to put on a c*ndom?!'"

This is just depressing.These people are going to have children just as stupid as them, and the whole cycle will go on forever. Sometimes I wish that mankind would just stop procreating.

[Miranda_]

Agreed. The sad thing is, that a lot of these girls don't really think of the dangers of how they're acting. No girl asks to be raped or molested; however, they need to understand how not everyone in the world is nice and that there are a lot of men out there who would take the way they dress and the way they speak and act as an excuse to rape them or molest them. It's incredibly dangerous for a little girl to be dressing and acting like a wh*re; I blame the parents however.

The children don't understand why it's dangerous, so their parents need to tell them and to disallow them from dressing that way. Kids that age don't have an income, so the only way they're getting the clothes is cuz their parents are buying them. It's also a sad truth that in court, rapists' defence lawyers often try to prove their client's innocence by saying that the victim consented, or was "asking for it by dressing sexy".

Again, it's not fair, but who said life had to be fair? That is why so many rape cases go unreported, cuz victims think they won't be believed or that they'll be torn to pieces in court, just cuz they were wearing miniskirts and crop tops.

[Silent_Wolf]

I could go on for days about this subject, but I'm gonna sum it up as this: The media needs to get a freakin' makeover. End of story. I feel absolutely disgusted whenever I see a little kid dressed up basically as a wh*re. At my schools, you are NOT allowed to wear those things, period, but when you hit highschool for some reason no one cares if the skinny girls wear sl*twear-for-teens, but if the pudgy girls do, they go OMGURBREAKINGDRESSCODE! and send you home. -.-

[spirit_queen]

At m yschool doesn't matter if you're pudgy; if you dress like that all the time, you can get away with it. One day I woke late and accidentally picked out a skirt way too short for my standards, but long by theirs, and got into trouble. -.-

During the year of 05-06, 23 sohpomores ALONE got pregnant.

Elementary kids in my area have DATES. What happened to COOTIES?? T^T

Yes, it's not that the kids are acting too grown up; kids have always been that way. It's that they're acting gornw up for their day, and because the media portrays sex and dating as a grown individuals thing, the kids do it, too. It's the media that's to blame, not the children so much (though they could be taught what's actually right by their parents, the ones who are still super-young).

and my mom and I agree with Miranda; at walm-mart, we saw this young girl in a sundress that would've been cute if it wasn't designed for cleavage... the girl was about FOUR! my mom shakes her head and says it's the parents' fault.

My friend Becca's mom thinks that you should need a license to be allowed to raise a kid; it's hard work, certainly harder than driving a car, and too many people suck at it.