07-29-2013, 01:10 PM
I now deem you GuruLady =P
I know exactly what you mean. Its been about a year and a half now since my ex and I split and I wasn't in a good place. I would go back to moments in the relationship and analyze and reanalyze and then re-reanalyze because I was so consumed about where things went wrong and how I could do better next time. I also was hurting from the fact that he started to like and then date another girl within weeks of us breaking up--with the girl he had been talking to while we were dating. It was just a hot mess that I was trying to figure out.
Now I realize that even though things went wrong, thats ok because I learned so much from him and am still learning things here and there from him. I learned that it was ok to be happy and love myself. It was ok to be myself and it was ok to go against the family. And now, I am expanding on those teachings.
I am now living for myself and not someone else (ok starting last night). I am going to do what I wish to do and make challenges and make opportunities for myself.
You're right Hayley. Its like I found an old friend.