III. Common Sex Myths
Myth: It's not possible to get pregnant the first time you have sex.
Fact: It is possible you can get pregnant any time you have sex, whether or not you use a contraceptive. The first time is no different from any other time you have sex, so always use protection.
Myth: It's not possible to get pregnant if you have sex in certain positions (e.g. standing up).
Fact: It is possible to get pregnant anytime you have sex, regardless of the position.
Myth: It's not possible to get pregnant if you have sex on your period.
Fact: It is possible to get pregnant any time you have sex. While theoretically there is a smaller chance around certain times of the month, you should always opt to use protection.
Myth: I heard doing [insert activity] will prevent pregnancy and STIs
Fact: The only certain way to prevent getting pregnant and STIs is to abstain completely from sexual activity. No magical method will prevent it if you do engage in sexual activity, only using proper protection will.
Women & Sex
Myth: It is normal for sex to hurt girls their first time.
Fact: There are some girls who find that their first time is painful because the hymen(a thin membrane covering the vagin.al opening) hasn't yet been broken. Another cause for this is that they are not aroused enough or lubricated enough. Always take the time out to thoroughly stimulate your partner and to listen. Sex typically should not hurt if you take the correct precautions and if it does consistently, you should see a doctor.
Myth: A girl's vagin.a stretches out permanently over time.
Fact: This is untrue. The average vagin.a is around 3-4 inches, but arousal can cause it to become up to three times that size, allowing a girl to accommodate most men. It will then reduce back to its normal size. This also applies to childbirth, which does not cause permanent stretching.
Myth: Peeing after sex washes out sperm and prevents pregnancy.
Fact: This is untrue. Urine exits the bladder through the urethra, which lies in above of the vagin.al opening and does not coincide with it. Going to the bathroom has no effect upon the sperm.
Myth: If a woman doesn't have her hymen, she isn't a virgin.
Fact: No true. Some women are born without their hymen and others break it through regular physical activity. The lack of a hymen does not mean a woman had sex. Also, some women still consider themselves a virgin if they lost their virginity in an undesirable manner(rape, incest). The hymen can be reconstructed with technology if desired.
Men & Sex
Myth: I heard that men of a certain race are absolutely going to have certain sized sexual organs.
Fact: On average, it is true that size can be related to your race. One study says that Asian men are smallest, averaging 4-5.5 inches; Caucasians came next with 6 inches; and African-American men are reportedly 6.5-8 inches long. This doesn't mean this is true in all cases though.
Myth: You need to be a certain size to please your partner.
Fact: Not true. Many partners do not take size into serious consideration and being a certain size does not prevent you from pleasing a partner. While it may require you to do things differently, that doesn't take away from the experience. Also, most women do not prefer men to be extremely large length-wise, so stop worrying and love yourself the way you are!
Myth: Women consider losing their virginity and sex more emotionally than men.
Fact: In general, this is true. Women are emotional creatures and they do connect emotions with sex more than men. This doesn't mean that men don't though. Some men consider sex the same way as women and some women consider it the same as men, so every partner should be considered on an individual basis.
Myth: Men want sex more than women do.
Fact: Wrong. Most women have a lot of responsibilities, frequently more than men, such as childcare, work, chores, cooking, etc, which makes them feel the desire for sex less due to exhaustion. Hormones also make women feel like having a lot of sex during certain times of the month, rather than all of the time. Finally, women tend to attach more emotions to sex than men do, so unresolved fights or not being at the proper point in a relationship can cause a woman to decline on the sex.