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  Is This a Healthy Crush? (Doll Article)

(April 08, 2009 by JeZz Send DollMail )
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So you like someone. I love a good crush. A healthy crush is harmless. It’s a fun way to fantasize about spending time with a special someone. The crush makes it fun to go to school and gives you plenty to talk about, but sometimes crushes cross the line from fun and flirty into something unhealthy and even dark. Always be sure your crushes are of the healthy variety.

The Healthy Crush Isn’t Obsessive

When you like a guy, you can dislike the girl he seems to be hanging out with, but you liking him doesn’t mean you get to hate her or do something ugly. When you start harassing a girl for “taking” your man, you’ve crossed the line – especially if he’s not really your man. If your crush has developed into a full-fledged relationship with the guy, congrats! If you see him talking to another girl, talk to him about it.

She might have asked him a question, but you’ve got your man. You don’t need to worry about her. If your guy starts looking at her more than he’s looking at you, avoid the temptation to trash the girl. It is more likely your guy’s fault than hers. Just lose the guy and find someone more worthy. Fighting over a man usually means he’s not worth it – otherwise there would be nothing to fight about. If he’s 100% true, you have nothing to worry about.

The Healthy Crush Isn’t Dangerous

Sometimes we like a guy so much we’re willing to do just about anything to get his attention or make him like us in return. If you find yourself doing things you know are wrong such as drinking, smoking, doing drugs, starving yourself, making yourself throw up, or engaging in sexual activities you’re not comfortable with, you’re way over the line between good and bad.

Let a trusted adult or friend know about the situation so that you can find help to get yourself back on track. You never need to put yourself or your health in danger for something like a crush, and having someone to listen to you as you talk it out will be a tremendous help – don’t be afraid to let someone in when you realize you’ve slipped past healthy.

The Healthy Crush Isn’t Degrading

Sometimes you don’t harm yourself physically for a crush, but you can still harm your self-esteem and your spirit. If you have a crush on someone, don’t let yourself become anyone’s entertainment. A crush is an honest enough emotion, but when you allow people to mock you, make fun of you, or embarrass you in front of the guy thinking you’ll get his attention or be part of his circle of friends, you’re harming yourself. Be very aware of the people around you – some might try to use your crush to entertain themselves or to get something from you that benefits them in some way.


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Lovegoonie

26/Female
United Kingdom
Posted On: August 29, 2009
I have a really big crush on a boy at school. He doesn't seem to like me though.
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Bellaredbird

18/Female
Posted On: May 22, 2009
I had a crush once turns out he hated my guts.So,now I don't have any crushes what so eva!!!!1
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cadgiesty

22/Female
GA
Posted On: May 8, 2009
I NEVER HAVE A UNHEALTHY CRUSH I ALWAYS HAVE HEALTHY CRUSHES CAUSE THIS BOY I HAVE A CRUSH ON ALREADY HAS A GIRLFRIEND BUT THE ONLY REASON I LIKE HIM IS CAUSE HE SMELL GOOD AND LOOK GOOD ANYWAYS BUT ALWAYS DREAM HED BREAK UP WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND FOR ME

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xXLush_RoseXx

24/Female
Grangerland, TX
Posted On: May 2, 2009
None of my crushes are healthy, they're all over fictional characters...*Hold The Phantom AKA Erik close* Though ONE time I had a crush on my next door neighbor, I only realized it after we moved. Never saw him again. Stinks really, he was a cool friend despite the fact he 'accidently'*insert eyeroll* threw a water balloon at me and we had to keep the fact I was soaking from my mom. Good times...good times...
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iamdaniellep

23/Female
Seminary, MS
Posted On: April 28, 2009
so true.

tommorrow is going to be the worst day evr.

one of the stupid snobs at my school found out that i had a MAJOR crush on someone, and is going to tell him!!!

HELP ME!!!!!!
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izzy4ever

18/Female
Arizona Boys Ran, AZ
Posted On: April 24, 2009
no crush is a healthy crush because every crush is obbsesive.if u havent noticed
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kd9pp

94/Female
Vanuatu
Posted On: April 21, 2009
i have a healthy crush his name is davon :icon 12: and he is so cute but i wonder if he likes me text me if u have coments or questins
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xxcrushxx1121

23/Female
Canada
Posted On: April 19, 2009
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low_bit_sound_

23/Female
Marietta, GA
Posted On: April 17, 2009
I once had a VERY unhealthy crush. I was being really stalker-ish and now that I think about what I did, that poor boy had to be scared for his life. He wasn't helping out too much either. In the end, it turned into this weird game where we would mock each other and always talk badly about each other. Now that I'm older, I don't even have too many crushes any more. I think they're a waste of time.
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Keanelover1289

21/Female
Posted On: April 17, 2009
My best friend and I have unhealthy crushes (not for any of the reasons mentioned in this article, btw... ) but since we both understand it, we can tease each other playfully about it. However, we can't tell anyone else because we both know that we'll get made fun of, for sure. It's more fun when it's a secret anyway.
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LancasterPrinc

25/Female
Nashville, TN
Posted On: April 17, 2009
I think you should go to a trusted adult or teacher. It doesn't sound like it's an un healthy crush, but instead an un healthy enviornment...

You shouldn't be teased for liking someone, and it's not your fault.

See about switching clas ses, or at least seats to get yourself away from that crowd.
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hypa_happi_rea

19/Female
United Kingdom
Posted On: April 16, 2009
I might have an UNhealthy crush, only because my friends and basically everyone in my class mocks me for it or embarrisses me in front of them when I just want to be invisable.

Nice article.

:|

xxx

RRR.
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nikki_nati

19/Female
Valley Stream, NY
Posted On: April 16, 2009
Awesome article! I don't normally use advise from ppl becuz alot of boys ask me out n i say yes and dump them but i think i might use what u wrote! lol jk i hate boys
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Silent_Wolf

22/Female
Weirton, WV
Posted On: April 14, 2009
Honestly, I don't think you need to talk to your boyfriend about every-single-girl-he-talks-to; that just gets too close to the topic of "STALKER!!!" for my taste. A very good guy friend of mine still hangs out with the rest of us at lunch, and his girlfriend is fine with it because they both understand they've got their own friends they hang out with.
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DarkNet

20/Female
Australia
Posted On: April 13, 2009
I did ONCE but when I figured it out I stopped talking to him for a week and it went back to a healthy crush.
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