You’ve got a boyfriend you really like. You’d like to keep him around for awhile, yet things haven’t always gone smoothly in your past relationships. Are you in danger of losing this boyfriend, too? If you’re doing any of these annoying things in your relationship you just might be on your way back to single.
#5 - Baby Talk
If you talk to your boyfriend like he’s six months old, he’s not going to stick around very long. Boys love to be coddled and taken care of, but in his world that means you make him a cake for his birthday and tell him how much hotter he is than his friends. It doesn’t mean you embarrass him by calling him “snookems,” “tubby-wubby” or “grumpy-wumpy” in front of his friends or parents.
#4 - Trash Talk
If you’re constantly ragging on his friends, ex-girlfriends or favorite bands, you’re on thin ice. You may think it makes him feel good to hear that his ex-girlfriends are all trashy losers but he did have feelings for those girls at one time. And you can never be sure that he doesn’t still have some secret feelings left for an ex, so tread lightly. Focus on how great the two of you are and leave everyone else alone.
#3 - Playing Queen of the World
If the world revolves around you and you aren’t afraid to let the world know it, you’re looking at trouble. Boys will play along with the “Queen of the Universe” routine for a little while if they like you, but after awhile your guy will get tired of all the bowing and scraping you require on a daily basis.We know you’re special, and so does he. You don’t have to be obnoxious about it. Keep your ego in check and just enjoy spending time together. You can boss the world around when you really are queen or president someday.
#2 - Holding Him under Lock and Key
Your boyfriend had his own life before he started spending time with you. Presumably he had his own friends and his own hobbies. If you insist on spending all of your free time together doing whatever activity you want, he’s going to start squirming. Then, if you don’t “allow” him to hang out with his friend or act like a pouty baby when he wants to go out with the guys for a night, you’re killing your own relationship. The guys were there first, whether you like it or not.
#1 – “You Complete Me”
Girls love that line in Jerry McGuire. But most boys, unless they are very dramatic and sentimental, don’t want to hear or even think that some girl needs him to be a whole person. Boys want you to be your own person before they show up. You should have your own friends, your own favorites and your own hobbies. A boyfriend is someone fun to hang out with, not necessarily your future husband.
Coming on too strong and professing your undying love for a boy after going out for two weeks is the number one way to make him turntail and run like crazy. He wants fun, not a future wife. Let your boyfriend make the first declaration of love after a few months. Otherwise all of your initial-carving, married-name-writing, and love-sick-puppy-panting are just going to scare him away.