Okay, Iíll admit it Ė Iím a flirt. A big one. Even when Iím dating someone, I canít help myself. I have to flirt with boys around me. My only excuses are that Iím young, not really committed to anyone, and that Iím just so good at flirting! Here are a few of my all time favorite flirting moves.
The Brazen Flirt
Your mother may tell you to never make the first move, and she might be right. But it is plenty of fun to be a bit brazen and take a boy by surprise. If you see a cute boy and want to get to know him a bit better, be bold and walk right up to him. Hold out your hand and introduce yourself.
Start with your name, and if youíre really bold and youíre getting a good reading from the guy, you can be even more brazen and say something you really mean. For example you might say, ďHi! Iím Jessica, and I knew I had to come over when I saw your eyes. I just love a guy with green eyes!Ē
If youíve picked a shy one, he might not know how to respond to your brazen introduction, but donít back down. If he stares at you blankly, just laugh, flip your hair and tell him, ďIt was very nice meeting you, maybe Iíll see those eyes around, eh?Ē and walk off. I guarantee heíll follow or find you very soon.
The Mysterious Flirt
If youíre not bold enough (yet) to be brazen, never fear. The mysterious flirt has served me well many times. Itís very easy to do Ė in fact, youíll be so mysterious the guy will have to do all the work just to talk to you. Hereís how to play this one:
See a guy you think is cute. Immediately get very busy with your friends, reading a book, gazing out the window or doing anything but looking at him. Casually glace over and watch him until he looks around and sees you. Then let your eyes linger for a millisecond longer than you would normally and go right back to your other activity. No smiles or secret eye movements.
Your guy will wonder if you were staring at him and be impressed with your confidence. Heíll also wonder if you just were looking of into space or taking in the whole room, not really him. The mysterious flirt can take a bit longer than the brazen approach. You might have to work on the guy all day or even all week. Keep pulling the same routine. Watch him long enough to get his attention then casually go back to your own thing. Youíll drive him crazy wondering if he should talk to you or if youíre just looking around the room.
By the way, if he never seems to get it completely, after a few casual glances, hold his eyes for a few seconds and smile knowingly Ė like you know exactly what heís thinking and what color underwear heís wearing. Then go back to your other activity. If he doesnítí clue in after that, heís not worth the effort.
The Friendly Flirt
The friendly flirt is right between the brazen flirt and the mysterious one. The friendly flirt is a technique that lets you be friendly to everyone, but especially friendly to cute boys. Be happy and cheerful as much you can. When your guy tells a joke, laugh and compliment him on his joke, his free throws at the game last night, or his shoes. It doesnít matter, just be friendly.
Make eye contact with your guy and smile each time. You may just be friendly to everyone, but if you make eye contact and smile enough times, youíll be very approachable as far as males are concerned. After all, a boy has to take a risk to come talk to you. If youíre already talking and laughing as friends or classmates, youíre one step ahead of the game. Show him youíre interested in a bit more than friends by lightly touching his shoulder or hand, leaning into him when you laugh and, of course, smiling at him as often as possible without scaring the poor guy. Pretty soon, you might just be smiling up at your new boyfriend!