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(June 21, 2007 by support Send DollMail )
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When your mom was young, young ladies were expected to act a certain way. When your grandmother was young, the rules were even harder to follow. Today, things are a bit looser, but manners have not gone away completely. In fact, with new technology, there may even be more to learn to make sure you are being classy at all times.

The Basics

I hope we all know the basics of good manners. When we ask for something, we say, "Please" – to everyone. When we receive something, even if it's not our first choice, we say, "Thank you." If someone says thank you to you, you say, "You're welcome." Grunting, "Huh?" and "Hey you" are not polite. Instead, I'm sure you're already saying, "Yes" and "Excuse me" when you are called upon or need to get someone else's attention.

If you're already doing these things, or at least know you should be, you're about fifty percent there. Real manners take a lot more than a simple please and thank you, however – even in the twenty-first century.

Mean It

It doesn't matter how much money you have or how you dress. Everyone can and should be polite to others. It makes the world a nicer place, and it actually feels good too – like giving yourself a nice pat on the back for a job well done. I said please and thank you aren't enough and here's why.

Teenagers are notorious for saying please with a sneer and thank you with an eye roll. If you roll your eyes and have a rude tone while mouthing polite words you are still rude. To be truly classy and polite, you have to go a step farther. You actually have to mean it or come as close as possible.

You don't have to sign your soul away to say thank you to the lunch lady at the cafeteria and nobody will make fun of you for inserting a pleasant "please" into, "Give me your roll if you're not going to eat it." Manners are a sign of respect, and we all like to be respected.

Class is in the Details

If you've accomplished the basics with meaning, you're ready for the serious stuff. A boy might try to open a door for you. Let him. It doesn't mean you're weak, it means he's got the kind of manners his father was raised with. And of course, say, "Thank you."

If you see someone struggling to open a door for any reason – young kids, elderly, arms full of boxes, open it for them. If they don't say thank you, don't sweat it. Just think of how much more polite you are. You might even offer to help carry some of those boxes if you're heading in the same direction.

If a friend is telling a story, don't interrupt. It can be excruciating, but talking over someone else is rude.

Wait for her to finish and then share your thought. Speaking of interrupting, taking a phone call or responding to a text message is the same as blowing them off. At the very least, check to see who it is and say, "I'm sorry, I have to take this..." if it's someone like your parents. If it's just another friend, call them back in a little while. Finish with one friend before you start with another or you'll end up with no friends at all.

Entire books have been written about the finer points of manners such as crossing legs at the ankles and which fork to use when. If you don't feel confident that you are using the best manners, you can certainly find a book on the subject or just watch people around you. If someone is nice to you, it feels good. Return the favor by being nice to someone else. You will know you've done your share to make the world a nicer place to be.


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cherriesglitte

22/Female
Tiger, GA
Posted On: June 14, 2008
the way we r brought up here were i live, we have always acted like that we dont know no better
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Mrs_11

21/Female
Jacksonville, FL
Posted On: August 11, 2007
U SEE I HAVE MANNERS, BUT I DONT REALLY PAY ATTENTION,BUT WHEN SUM1 ELSE IS BEIN RUDE AT TE TABLE THEN I SAY SUMTHIN ABOUT IT. BUT I HAVE MANNERS AND IM NOT RUDE AT THE TABLE
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girlteen

20/Female
Posted On: July 30, 2007
Good article but, u told me everything I already know.

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Hollimer

23/Female
Torrance, CA
Posted On: June 28, 2007
ugh i have 2 take cotillion. chain letter!!!

once u have read this i must pst on at least 3 things within the next 2 hours and forty six minutes.

once there was a girl who never had a single friend. she died in a car wreck and now her ghost haunts every pair of friends she can find. to save yourself and your best friend, post this.
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sk8tergirl1001

19/Female
Gilbert, AZ
Posted On: June 27, 2007
omg...HELP!! i dont do like one thing on this list and i no its bad.but yeah my mom is making me join eddicite cause im emo and she really wants me to be girly and omg i dont want to i mean i dont mind saying please and thank u every once and a while!!
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s_wilson_1

23/Female
Barbados
Posted On: June 26, 2007
plz thank u what eva i say them most of the time but really why do we have to say those things aaahh idk but say them once in a while in your good
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s_wilson_1

23/Female
Barbados
Posted On: June 26, 2007
being polite isnt hard but sometimes it stinks haveing to follow all those rules but we break them anyways right

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Knewgirl

23/Female
New Zealand
Posted On: June 25, 2007
I was Brought up with haveing to use please and thank you and all that other mannery stuff, like if i wanted a drink i had to say can i please have a drink and my mum or nana wouldnt hand it to me until i said thank-you i think that manners are important^_^
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never_more

22/Female
Arvada, CO
Posted On: June 25, 2007
yeah, this is great! chivalry is NOT DEAD!!!!!!! a boy once flirted with me and was very chivalrous (if that's what it is). it is nice to offer the proper way to handle that kind of thing for those who weren't raised to recognized! :icon 12:
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yoshie

20/Female
San Jose, CA
Posted On: June 25, 2007
I always use my manners and my friends always tell me how polite and nice I am :l ol3:
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CaptinJack

22/Female
United Kingdom
Posted On: June 24, 2007
I'm polite all the time, or my parents, and my friend's parents think I am anyway. I always hold doors for the elderly, and pick up stuff or mother's when their baby has dropped somthing :-D You'll feel great after you help someone, or be polite to somone
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stinkyjojo

21/Female
Canada
Posted On: June 24, 2007
Manners arent personality. You can think or say something rude or sarcastic and its ok (sometimes) , but saying please or thank you doesnt turn you into a drone. Using good manners is just common courtesy.
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SourLemons____

106/Female
Slovakia
Posted On: June 23, 2007
I know...some people are SO disrespectufl..like whe u r talking and tehy say 'what? sy that again..i wasnt listening' and then they LAUGH ABOUT OIT?? that make me so mad..

Jae
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alabamablonde1

20/Female
Elkmont, AL
Posted On: June 23, 2007
The worst people are the ones who try to act "ghetto" or "gangsta" and think it's cool to disrepect people. I just wnat to tell them "NO, you aren't gansta you're just making yourself look like an a*ss!". I don't think you should let people push you around (yeah, I have smarted off to a teacher who accused me of something some moron boy next to me did and then had the nerve to call me a liar, but I just don't stand for that kind of thing) but I think if someone treats you with respect then that's how you should treat them.
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Aerolyn

22/Female
South Park Villa, WA
Posted On: June 23, 2007
i agree with nikki radcliffe.

I do all those things as well, so I guess I'm pretty polite.

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