Some times are not appropriate for flirting, even harmless fun. If you're being a bit too friendly with your best friend's guy or guy hopeful, you're about to ruin a relationship – the one between you and your friend that is. It's also a very bad idea to flirt with boys or men who are considerably older than you. You may think you science teacher is hot, but you can land in a pretty big mess if you think a few clever words and a winning smile will win his heart or an A.
Good flirting can look different on everyone. It does have some tell-tale characteristics, however. Most flirting starts with a smile and some eye contact. You meet his eyes, smile and maybe look away. This is like a "come on over" beacon to most boys. The next step is friendly conversation. Keep it light and maybe tease just a little bit. Don't make fun of the boy as he is already putting his ego on the line coming over to visit.
If you really like him, make a point of finding a way to touch him. Nothing serious here either, just make a light touch on his arm or hand when you make a point about something in conversation, or even a little knee nudge under the table when you share a private joke. It can appear accidental or intentional, but limit it to something very small or you might look too forward. We don't want to be patting him down during your very first conversation.
Aim Your Flirt Wisely
You don't have to really like a boy to flirt with him, but you do need to be careful. Flirting is a powerful weapon. Believe it or not, many boys are rather insecure and are very afraid of rejection. If you are just practicing new flirting techniques on someone you think is harmless, he may be getting an entirely different message. You flirt with him. It tells him (in guy language) that you're interested.
He ventures past his comfort zone to ask you out or even call you. When you reject him, even if it's a very gentle let down, you've hurt his feelings – and you started the whole thing! Flirting is a lot of fun and can take awhile to perfect, so it is best to practice wisely. Think about what you're doing and then just flirt away!