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(January 20, 2007 by support Send DollMail )
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Humans are social animals. Some are a bit more social than others, of course, but we are all most comfortable in the company of our friends. But when does a group of friends turn into a clique? And what does it matter if it does – surely not all cliques are as horrible as the ones in books, TV and movies.

A Clique

By most definitions, a clique is a very close, exclusive group of friends. The sticky point is the "exclusive". Nobody really cares if you have a best friend. They only care if you have a best friend who won't allow you to hang out with anyone else – including your other friends.

How Does it All Begin?

Very few people would ever start out with the intention of making a group designed to hurt others or make them feel left out. Actually, I take that back – few people over the age of twelve make clubs designed to hurt someone else. Surely, you've never started a "We Hate (insert name here) Club," have you? At least I would hope you haven't in the last few weeks.

Real cliques begin innocently enough. A small group of friends spend time together. They might give each other nicknames and have tons of inside jokes. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. Groups of friends start to go wrong when they exclude or hurt others.

If you meet a new girl and think she would be fun to hang out with, great! If your best friends say you would be a total loser to even thinking about hanging out with someone besides them – even for one afternoon, not so great. If your friends seem to think they own you or you feel like you have to explain any other friends you might have, congratulations, you're in a clique.

Good Cliques

Bad cliques are pretty easy to spot. The only time you might have trouble seeing one is if you're right in the middle of it. Try to take a step back every now and again to be sure you aren't heading into the dark side. Now, on a lighter note, there is such a thing as a good clique.

If you find a close group of friends who are genuinely nice to others and welcome others with open arms, you're in good hands. Not all small groups of friends are bad. Some are actually great. Working with friends to solve problems or help others is one of the best ways to feel good about yourself and grow closer to your friends.

A Clique by Any Other Name...

Some groups of friends just call themselves cliques because they like the name. Even here on The Doll Palace there are Cliques and Clubs. These are not the exclusive snobby groups you might think of at your local junior high or high school. They are just groups of friends meeting each other and talking about dolls. Yes there are some restrictions to joining a few of the Doll Palace Cliques. But being a certain age is not the same thing as being mocked at school for the rest of your life because some kids don't like your personal style.

Having a close group of real friends is one of the greatest gifts you can ask for. Hopefully you and your friends would never make fun of others or pressure a friend to not be friendly with anyone else. Staying true to each other is wonderful, just be sure you're also staying true to yourself.


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dollzx

21/Female
United Kingdom
Posted On: April 8, 2012
I personally hate cliques. When I used to be really shy a few years ago then I used to always get laughed at by the 'in crowd' just because I was different and I didn't wear superskinny jeans and tons of makeup into school, chat in class all the time or talk about other people in bad ways (sorry to say this, but this is also known as b-tching. Sorry.) Anyway, that is why I don't really like them. Is that unreasonable?
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cherriesglitte

22/Female
Tiger, GA
Posted On: June 14, 2008
i have 3 best friends and we all just hang out 2gether and avoid the popular group
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fuzzyblueberry

20/Female
Croswell, MI
Posted On: June 25, 2007
My group is emo and everyone mskes fun of us.Look were people too but we don't cut ourselfs thats just stupid.I find labels stupid but you know what the people who are preps really need to relize if your mean to people not like you and try to suck up to people so they do like you,you won't get very far in life.
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islay12

20/Female
Canada
Posted On: March 4, 2007
DIE CLIQUE!!! they just make people feel bad there is a clique at my school started ny Rhiannon a little b.itch
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tinkerbell445

18/Female
Posted On: February 25, 2007
lol trust me i know ALOT of cliques in my skool
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DEVOTIONx

106/Female
United Kingdom
Posted On: February 7, 2007
paahaahaha. this is rly sad.

if you want to be in clique, do

okay.

its not up to bunch of randoms on a website to tell you ok.

live yr life pls.

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arabamericansw

22/Female
Japan
Posted On: February 6, 2007
B.F.F.C. is the club I am in. My friends and I made it in 3rd grade. We have been best friends ever since.
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coolchic16

22/Female
Olympia, WA
Posted On: February 1, 2007
Alrighty people.

zoegrlkisses, YOU'RE TWELVE. TWELVE-YEAR-OLDS SHOULD NOT HAVE CLIQUES. You should be playing on your elementary school playground with your friends. Of course, modern civilization has matured at an ever-increasing rate...

And pupper0123, You know the actual MEANING of the word groupie, right? Contact me if you don't.

Cornelia weasl, Your friend is in an emo clique. Great. That doesn't mean that all emos do that. You didn't say that, I know, but I'm clearing it up for some of the ignorant people that think all emos are the same.

LoveyaBoys, there ARE bad cliques, it's just that the ones in the movies are overexaggerated. The girls (and sometimes guys) can be just as bad.

Everyone, There are going to be rude, exclusive people in this world that you're going to have to deal with unless we take a stand and try to end this. I am. Are you?
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aprilcheetah

21/Female
North Port, FL
Posted On: January 29, 2007
this is a good article, super cute. Im in a clique and even if people can get mean about it we are still pretty nice.
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Black_Mage_Rae

23/Female
Canada
Posted On: January 29, 2007
It was an all right article. Although I just hate cliques because everything seems so open and shut... i suppose you could call me and my friends a clique but there are always so many people coming and going no one can keep it straight. Plus, we never use the word clique, it's the "group" because we hate that word. We all seem to avoid the "preps" and the "jocks" only because of their rude ways.
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cornelia_weasl

23/Female
Erwin, TN
Posted On: January 28, 2007
My friends in an emo clique and every now and then she can scare me. She draws on herself and then goes over it with scissors and she always reads these murder novels.
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cornelia_weasl

23/Female
Erwin, TN
Posted On: January 28, 2007
CH3rryCHICK, that comment's a little mean don't you think?
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cornelia_weasl

23/Female
Erwin, TN
Posted On: January 28, 2007
I have friends from chruch so that obviously is a no brainer as to whether or not we're good of bad. I also have a group at school. We pretty much mind our own buisness. I wouldn't call either a clique even though we're the definition. Our group name is our names' group.
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writergirl

20/Female
Houston, TX
Posted On: January 27, 2007
great article
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Allyme

23/Female
France
Posted On: January 26, 2007
I'm not in a clique, but I have friends from EVERY clique in my school!! My friends and I just sit at a diff table for lunch evry day... its kinda weird... but, yeah. I think cliques are okay.

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