Growing up a girl can be hard, but every girl needs to know three things right from the start. These simple life truths might seem obvious, but they are often the most forgotten in the mix of living.
Love Doesn’t Have Requirements
Too often, a girl is told by her friends or boyfriend that she must ‘prove’ her love in some way or another. The obvious way is the physical, but there are other ways as well. For example, if your boyfriend gets angry and abuses you physically or verbally, love doesn’t require you to stay with him. You can love him and still leave him if that love isn’t a healthy one. Likewise, never be convinced that you must do something you don’t want to do simply because you must “show” someone you love him. Some love is deep and lasting and other is a short fire that burns out quickly. But no love has to be “proven.”
Women Are Really, Really Tough
Boys might be built to be faster and stronger. They might not cry as easily at sappy movies, but that doesn’t mean they are tougher than you. Granted, there are different definitions of toughness, but I’m referring to mental stamina and emotional endurance. You are always tough enough to stand alone, but you don’t have to do it all the time – leaning on others is actually a way of being brave, too.
The brains of women are designed to multitask. They are smaller than the brains of men and much more connected across the middle. This means that most girls and women can handle multiple things at a time. Boys don’t do this as well – they work best on one thing at a time, but do so with a vengeance.
The brains of women also keep emotions next to the communication center. This allows women to express their emotions through words. Emotions in men are right next to the “flight or fight” mechanism. This means they either get mad or run from strong emotion and have a very hard time expressing it. Bottom line? Men might be stronger and faster, but women can endure a great deal more in a much healthier way. Don’t be fooled into thinking you’re weak – ever.
You Come First
Many girls are very caring and want the best for everyone and everything around them. Some girls go so far to help others that they wind up hurting themselves. If you have to skip lunch every day to donate money to save the dolphins, you’re not being especially healthy. If you have to hide your intelligence and achievements to make those around you feel better about themselves, you’re stifling your own potential. Sure, it’s okay to not discuss a test you passed that a friend failed to make her feel better, but if you have to prove how un-smart you are every day, you’re not doing yourself any favors.
You can dedicate your life to helping others, but please – always remember that you have to take care of yourself well in order to effectively help others, too.