I love romantic movies, but I find myself wondering occasionally how that traditional romance of sweeping girls off their feet would translate to the modern day. I’m reasonably sure few men put their jackets on the ground to protect a lady’s feet or stand when the lady enters the room, but that’s not to say manners are dead and gone. I know plenty of guys
who have great manners and skill – especially when it comes to the modern romance.
It used to be that romance came through love
letters and such. Today, we are entirely too busy to sit and write love letters to each other. So, it’s perfectly acceptable to write a romantic email or even send a sweet IM or text throughout the day. It’s the thought that counts in these things and if your guy doesn’t even know how to frame a proper letter, praise his email and text efforts knowing this is the modern romance put in writing. Guys
out there should also realize, however, that love letters in their traditional form are becoming a lost art. If you really want to wow a girl, think about writing her a letter that comes from your heart – it will make a hugely profound impression.
In romance, you should be your sweetie’s first priority and vice versa. That doesn’t mean you should ditch your friends, but if you’re thinking of him all the time, shouldn’t he be first on your MySpace page or get preferential treatment in your list of faves? You might not be able to fill your dance card with his name exclusively, but you can put his username first on all your forums, profiles and such. It’s essentially the same thing.
Offering a Helping Hand
I for one would be irritated if I had to wait on a man to open my door all the time or if I had to wait for him to come out of the car, walk around and then open my door. I am a modern woman, of course – I can open my own door. Naturally, I do love it when a guy gets there first and opens it for me. The only one I think is really silly is sitting in the car while he runs around to let me out of the car when we’ve arrived. Sure it’s manners, but it feels silly to me at least.
In the modern world of romance, car remotes unlock doors and sliding doors open on their own simplifying the whole door drama. Your guy can still offer you a helping hand, however, by making small gestures to lighten your technical load. He can obviously still carry your books at school, but he can also take on the more tedious tasks of updating your profiles, converting records, downloading your favorite songs and compiling appropriate playlists. We all want the results, but sometimes it’s just tedious to sit around and do all the busy work ourselves. When your guy takes on the boring tasks of feeding in CD after CD or picking the best of the best from each for a new playlist, you know he really cares.