I know a girl at school who has made truly poor choices. This girl has made choices that will last far longer then she ever anticipated, and her life might be changed completely based on one moment of poor thought – or no thought, more likely.
What She Did
So what did this girl do? She took a picture. After being teased by other girls for too longer about not being attractive to boys, she took a picture of herself without a shirt on. The picture showed her face and her bare top and before she knew it, at least half of the school had seen the picture and life as she had known it was gone in one day.
She had many opportunities to smarten up and stop the process before it went out of control. She might not have taken the picture. She might not have sent it to the boy she thought would keep it safe. She might have at least called first to realize that the boy’s girlfriend was holding the phone when the picture and message arrived. But instead, the picture was taken, it was sent, it was received by someone other than the intended party and then was sent out endlessly. The last I heard the picture had been uploaded online as well.
Why Did She Do It?
You and I can look at the situation and see exactly how foolish it was right from the start. But many others fail to see how the choice of a moment can affect the rest of their school year or possibly their life.
In this case, the poor girl made a choice because she had low self esteem. She took the picture to show the boy she liked that she was pretty enough (and sexy enough) to like. I can promise you that this girl was beautiful before any of this began. Her self esteem has cost her a lot around campus. While it might blow over this year and be mostly forgotten, those she goes to school with will always remember and she, of course, will certainly never forget the power of poor choices.
Embarrassing pictures are becoming more popular as a form of ridicule. Girls especially are using pictures from the locker room or silly pictures from parties to essentially blackmail or harm the reputation of others. In the case of the girl from my school, she took her own picture using her phone. But in hundreds, perhaps thousands of other cases every year, girls with a grudge are taking exposed pictures of each other and posting them on the various social networks or on photo sites for all the world to see.
You can take legal action against someone who does this to you, but that happens after the worst of the damage is done. It is far better to protect yourself as well as possible by always being aware of your surroundings. Your school likely outlaws phones in the locker room, but if not, ask your coaches to make that a rule. If you see phones or cameras out in the locker room, be extremely wary. If you’re concerned, move into a different area of the bay or even change in a locked toilet stall.
If you know of any misconduct with a phone or camera, be sure to report it immediately. While one person might get a day of detention, you’ll be saving another person from years of embarrassment.