We all love a good party, but unfortunately, parties are often where our social lives take a nosedive. If you embarrass yourself in a big way at a party, the experience can follow you for years. By that same token, if you put yourself in an unsafe situation, I donít need to tell you how dangerous that can be Ė even among people you think you can trust.
There are certain codes and behavior that are expected at parties these days, and they usually arenít something mom and dad are going to sit you down and talk to you about. Most of the time, they have no idea about this stuff anyway. The social lives of teens today are light years away from twenty or thirty years ago. Here are a few things to think about before making your next big party debut:
Parties are a chance to showcase your high fashion skills, especially outfits that you canít wear to school. Keeping that in mind, find something flirty and fun, but be careful not to cross over into sleazy. Yes, skin is in, but somebodyís living room is not the same as the beach. Jeans and a cute top or an adorable mini with a matching sweater are great choices, but if you go for the skirt, please remember to sit correctly so that all the boys donít get a cheap thrill Ė that is SO not the reputation you want. Look around here on The Doll Palace for ideas about what to wear and how to look better than all the other girls there Ė except your friends, of course.
Eating and Drinking
Parties mean food, and by all means enjoy it. Just remember that other people may be watching you, and if you immediately spill punch on your t-shirt, and talk with your mouth full, they will definitely notice. You might consider saving the chowing down with abandon for your next sleepover, and be a bit more demure while at co-ed functions. On another note, if you are attending coed parties, especially in high school, never take your eyes off your drink. If you leave it sitting around, anyone can drop something in it Ė including pills.
I assume that you are attending parties with friends, and this is definitely the best way to go. Always use the buddy system to be sure nobody gets left behind or tries to sneak off with a boy you KNOW she wouldnít really want to be sneaking off with. Drinking happens at parties, and of course, if youíre underage you wouldnít dare join in, but your friends might. Be the responsible one, and take care of your friends while everybody is having a good time.
Flirt with the boys, laugh, tell jokes, and gossip, but stick together. Parties are notorious for causing contention among friends, so be sure you donít leave anyone out or abandon your friends for a guy. Guys come and go, but friends will always stick by you.
Ah, enemies. We all have someone we donít really get along with, and for whatever reason they show up when weíre trying to relax and have a good time. Try not to let your least-favorite person spoil your evening, and by no means let all the people around you goad you into fighting with her. If she wants to be a big drama queen and start things, just be the bigger person and ignore it. People that know you arenít going to listen to her anyway, and sheíll just look like an idiot.
Finally, be very, very wary of situations where you might be one-on-one with boys. Some of the most popular party activities these days involve hooking up with your boyfriend or even a boy you donít know very well. A kiss is one thing, but full-blown making out or even more is something else entirely.
Stay away from empty rooms or dark corners. If you want to flirt and visit with a boy, do it in full view of your friends to prevent any misunderstanding about your intentions or what really went on. Plenty of girls never did more than kiss a guy, but they did it behind closed doors so everyone thinks they did way more than kiss. Going too far with a guy, especially at parties where everyone knows, is the number one way to ruin your reputation. You might also make sure you keep an eye on your friends to prevent them from making the same mistake.