I know itís hard, but there are serious benefits from time away from members of the opposite sex. Boys are distracting in many ways, and believe it or not, you actually act different around boys than you do around your best friends. If you donít believe me, ask your friends Ė theyíll probably tell you the truth. Its okay to act different around boys
, just donít do so at the exclusion of your friends. In fact, donít exclude your friends at all. Ditch the boys instead.
We all need a break from time to time, so take a break from boys this weekend. There is no rule stating you have to go to the movies with his friends every weekend or walk the mall with a coed crowd. Sure, have a boyfriend or crush, but have a life, too. Even the girls of Grease knew that a Girlís Night Out (or in) was the way to go Ė why not have one of your own?
If you realize that youíre starting to obsess about boys and dress for boys and talk for boys and pick out songs for boys, you need a break. Quit boys cold turkey for a week or weekend. Ignore (or be pleasantly distant from) boys
in class and in the hallways. Instead of sitting beside your crush at lunch, get a table of girls together for some good fun and gossip. Hide from boys on your various online profiles and tell yourself youíll get back to them in a day or two.
If you have a boyfriend who would be very confused and concerned about your sudden lack of attention, you donít have to drop him completely, just tell him youíre hanging with the girls for the weekend and youíll catch up with him at school on Monday. If he freaks, heís not the kind of guy you want around anyhow. The fact that youíre suddenly distant might very well bring you more male attention. Resist the urge to flirt and stay distant until youíve overcome the boy habit Ė at least for a little while.
No Boys Allowed
Find the friends youíve been ignoring lately and instead of regaling them with tales of your crush or boyfriend, sit down and listen to their stories about their own. Get a group together for a sleepover or a trip to the mall and just get caught up again. Itís hard to talk personally when boys are around, so now that itís just the girls, you can open up to each other again (just like the old days!) and really reconnect.
Maintain Girly Status
Once you go back to the boys or your boyfriend, donít fall out of touch with your girlfriends again. Form a social group online or send emails to the group. Form the kind of club you had in elementary school where you knew you could count on your friends to keep your secrets and tell you their own. It doesnít matter if youíre thirteen or thirty, every girl needs a network of girlfriends to keep her sane and keep her girly!