So you like someone. I love a good crush. A healthy crush is harmless. Itís a fun way to fantasize about spending time with a special someone. The crush makes it fun to go to school and gives you plenty to talk about, but sometimes crushes cross the line from fun and flirty into something unhealthy and even dark. Always be sure your crushes are of the healthy variety.
The Healthy Crush Isnít Obsessive
When you like a guy, you can dislike the girl he seems to be hanging out with, but you liking him doesnít mean you get to hate her or do something ugly. When you start harassing a girl for ďtakingĒ your man, youíve crossed the line Ė especially if heís not really your man. If your crush has developed into a full-fledged relationship with the guy, congrats! If you see him talking to another girl, talk to him about it.
She might have asked him a question, but youíve got your man. You donít need to worry about her. If your guy starts looking at her more than heís looking at you, avoid the temptation to trash the girl. It is more likely your guyís fault than hers. Just lose the guy and find someone more worthy. Fighting over a man usually means heís not worth it Ė otherwise there would be nothing to fight about. If heís 100% true, you have nothing to worry about.
The Healthy Crush Isnít Dangerous
Sometimes we like a guy so much weíre willing to do just about anything to get his attention or make him like us in return. If you find yourself doing things you know are wrong such as drinking, smoking, doing drugs, starving yourself, making yourself throw up, or engaging in sexual activities youíre not comfortable with, youíre way over the line between good and bad.
Let a trusted adult or friend know about the situation so that you can find help to get yourself back on track. You never need to put yourself or your health in danger for something like a crush, and having someone to listen to you as you talk it out will be a tremendous help Ė donít be afraid to let someone in when you realize youíve slipped past healthy.
The Healthy Crush Isnít Degrading
Sometimes you donít harm yourself physically for a crush, but you can still harm your self-esteem and your spirit. If you have a crush on someone, donít let yourself become anyoneís entertainment. A crush is an honest enough emotion, but when you allow people to mock you, make fun of you, or embarrass you in front of the guy thinking youíll get his attention or be part of his circle of friends, youíre harming yourself. Be very aware of the people around you Ė some might try to use your crush to entertain themselves or to get something from you that benefits them in some way.