Weíve all be disappointed, and dealing with that negative emotion can be very telling. The better able you are to handle disappointment and the anger and sadness it produces, the more likely you are to be able to handle just about anything that comes your way. Of course, itís far easier said than done to make yourself feel better when youíre feeling blue, so I have provided some of my favorite suggestions below.
Cry It Out
There is a lot to be said for having a true sob fest. Grab some pillows, close the door and just cry and cry and cry. Youíll deal with just about every negative emotion that has been floating around inside and youíll definitely feel better at the end of the crying jag. Crying over disappointment Ė big or small, is best done alone. Even if you think you want your friends around in a time like this, youíll be able to let loose and pound out fury and rage on your pillow without having to explain yourself if nobody else is around.
A side benefit of crying like a madwoman over disappointment is that it will put the slight in perspective. If you are crying and sobbing and gnashing your teeth only to find yourself feeling rather foolish after a few minutes, youíre well on your way to recovery. When you reach a point when you donít want to cry any more or frankly feel rather stupid sitting there having a temper tantrum, you can consider yourself completely healed from the experience.
Lean on Others
Friends are there when you need them the most and a time of disappointment definitely qualifies as a time of need. When you get a rejection letter in the mail or realize your crush likes your enemy after all, you need a shoulder to lean on and a good friend is there to help. While the best friends will offer you support even when you donít want to talk about it, rehashing events and talking through your emotions with your friends can actually help a lot.
Go through the events again and talk about all of the various options. Dig into every angle looking for important things and dealing with all of the fall out. When youíve been through it a few times youíll not only feel better about the disappointment, youíll likely have a plan for what youíre going to do next.
Power through It
You need to get emotions out because storing them inside can cause serious harm, but getting that negativity out in a healthy way is important, too. The best way to blow off steam is to sweat it our or use your power to force yourself through the drama. Punching a punching bag or pillow, kickboxing, frantic dance, running and jumping are all great ways to purge the negativity and allow your body and mind time to recover from the show. After all, it is usually not the disappointment that is so terrible, itís the anger we feel over the rejection. Rid yourself of the anger and youíll be a happier person more likely to seize the next opportunity.