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(April 20, 2008 by JeZz Send DollMail )
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Girl fights are different from boy fights in more ways than the obvious. When boys disagree, fists are fast to fly, and when the fight is over, itís over. The situation is resolved, respect among peers is high and everyone goes on to do their own thing. When girls fight, however, a friendly disagreement quickly escalates to a Cold War which can rival anything governments could produce.

The Disagreement

The first step in a girl fight is the initial problem. You have to be careful because more than a few times a monster fight has been started by something someone says you said whether you did or not. If you find yourself offended or put out by someone else, try not to get your feathers ruffled too badly before you find out what was actually said, by whom and why.

The Anger

Once you realize you have every right to be angry, go ahead and fume. Call your friends, vent about it, write nasty journal entries and mutter curses under your breath. What you should avoid, however, is making a statement youíll have to back up later. For example, if you tell all your friends youíre going to make her pay or youíll beat her senseless, you might feel obligated to live out your threat. If the other girl or one of her friends hears you, the situation automatically escalates, so be very careful what actually comes out of your mouth.

Resolution Attempt

If this is your first squabble with this girl, youíll likely try to resolve the issue with help of friends. This is a time to really put some effort into finding a solution. Continued arguments and actual fighting wonít solve anything in the long run, so the first round of resolutions is the time to end the fights Ė even if youíre still hurt or mad.

A fight should be over when the starting party apologizes and you accept her apology. If she refuses to apologize and seems to be escalating the fight, you donít have to play along. You have a choice how to respond Ė no matter what the other girl is saying or doing.

If sheís in your face calling you names, you might try simply turning around and walking away. By turning your back on a raging woman, you might be opening yourself up for further attack, but everyone who sees you do this will realize youíre choosing to walk away and not get involved further.

In a calm moment later, you might try talking to the girl again or write her a quick note letting her know that itís a shame you canít forgive and forget, but you are not interested in wasting time with the drama and will be moving on from it Ė you hope she can, too.

Continued Fighting

If the girl (or her friends or yours) simply canít let it go and arguments continue, stand your ground if you know youíre right and be sure youíre not letting pride get in the way of good judgment. Ask the girl if sheíd be willing to sit down with a teacher or counselor to work through the argument. If not, simply quit fighting.

She can rage and scream all she wants for as long as she wants, but you donít have to play along. If you fight back, things will continue to escalate until youíre facing a real physical fight. Nothing good has come of that, and youíll likely be facing some serious consequences just for being involved in a fight whether you started it or not.

Ignore her as much as possible and stick close to your good friends. There might be more drama as she spreads rumors about you, but resist attacking back. The calmer you are in the face of attack, the more it appears youíre the one in the right Ė just be sure you really are right.


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Lovegoonie

26/Female
United Kingdom
Posted On: August 10, 2009
Me and a boy called Caolan once fought as in like punch punch slap when we were deciding who had to take the dare to run up to someone and snog them OR say 'Heya [name]. I love you so much and I look at you every day walking past my house!' Suprise, suprise, I won. It was the first person to say 'Ow!' That lost. I slapped Caolan right across the arm and he went: 'Ow, that hurt you bogie girl!' But I still had to do the dare. So all the punches in the nose I got were absoloutley pointless. Oh well. Caolan did it to me. Kissed me on the cheek. So they dared me to say to Caolan: 'Come here, fatty. Might as well go on a diet.' But he didn't exactly think bad of any of us. He just laughed and said: 'Well then you go on a diet where you can only eat brown foods. That'll show you fatty!'

xFaithx

P.S. Caolan is pronnounced Kee-lun and please don't make fun of the name because it's Irish and most people make fun of it BIG TIME.

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lilmzclaszy

19/Female
Richmond, VA
Posted On: June 17, 2008
me and my friend try not to listen to wen evreybody be talkin bout other people and gossip and all of that nonsence
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cherriesglitte

22/Female
Tiger, GA
Posted On: June 9, 2008
when me and my friend fight we do throw punches then we say sorry and are happy again
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bookworm_7177

25/Female
Canada
Posted On: May 26, 2008
Haha. But then those r the drama queens...
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bookworm_7177

25/Female
Canada
Posted On: May 26, 2008
Well at my school there isn't cold sholder, just ignoring, gossip, secrets, sides, etc. It's sorta immature if you think about it.
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amone4lyfe

19/Female
Dale City, VA
Posted On: May 16, 2008
wel i think dat u r u right but at the same time gurl fuight aren't dat. so personaly i dont like your argement its stupid well stupid really cant cover it the word im thinking is to mature for you because the artical you wrote is so immature so but the truth hurts and if u doint like it then dont write things like dis crap cuz it is crap yeah i called ur artical crap but i don't like the artical and u can get mad i dont care but i no wat im talking about cuz im a prfechinal and i no wat im taking about and if u dont take it oh well
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StrangerInMosc

106/Female
Houston, TX
Posted On: May 9, 2008
me and my friend are in a fight lol i guess we are not friends no more she gives me cold shoulder every month what do suggest i do Get a new best friend?
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american_idol_

23/Female
Bardstown, KY
Posted On: April 29, 2008
you suck

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goth_and_proud

19/Female
OH
Posted On: April 26, 2008
Girls always fight.And if we throw punches it is fun to watch.But most girls i know wouldn't fight with there fists becasue they didn't grow up that way,but i was so i'm sure i'll get into more fist fights.lol!
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prtyPrincess90

20/Female
Chicago, IL
Posted On: April 26, 2008
i just got out of a fight and i had beat those two girls ASS up

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tinkerbell445

18/Female
Posted On: April 26, 2008
i'm actually in a slight fight with my friend....but it got bad, and we're not friends anymore
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crazymonkey85

22/Female
Seattle, WA
Posted On: April 25, 2008
when I get into fights I beat a girls ass
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yoshie

20/Female
San Jose, CA
Posted On: April 25, 2008
at my junior high we practicalyy skip 3 and 4 and just fight!
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The_Aquanator

20/Female
Japan
Posted On: April 23, 2008
I think the way guys fight is WAY more effective. Cuz then a parent or teacher IS gonna get involved, the way girls fight one the other hand, it hurts the girls feelings, not her BODY.

Plus, I think boys are a little less..... Sensitive to snide remarks. I'm not saying that they don't hurt too, I'm just saying that sometimes guys handle it a LITTLE bit better....

But, hey! That's just my take.....

~Emo Dudet!
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ilovezelda

23/Female
Lake Elsinore, CA
Posted On: April 23, 2008
Girls are extremely creepy in fights, well in my opinion.

I prefer to call girl fights, cat fights, cause that's what they are.
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