I love summer
romance. I like the sweetness of the romance and the looseness of expectations. Even the poignant break-up at the end of the summer can be sweet, albeit a bit painful. Of course I donít have a terrific summer love every summer, but the possibility is almost as much fun as the actual relationship in most cases. Just leave yourself open to the possibilities and enjoy yourself along the way Ė who knows, maybe love will strike.
Love without Complications
seems so uncomplicated compared to relationships you might have during the school year. The summer love usually starts someplace like a mission trip or camp and stays there. Having a mad crush on the boy in your youth group can occupy your thoughts every Wednesday and Sunday evenings until you finally get the opportunity youíve been looking for at the youth lock-in. The fun of it is the sweet anticipation, the flirting and the containment of the emotions Ė they arenít bogged down by the opinions of fifteen school friends and you arenít trying to fit in phone calls around physics homework. Your life and love life are free and simple Ė more fun for everyone.
Romance with a Conclusion
It might be a bit disheartening to think of it this way, but when you claim to fall madly in love with a boy at summer camp, you are reasonably sure that the current love of your life will probably only be around for a few weeks. This makes the whole thing so much less threatening than dating someone you go to school with or that you see every day at band practice. The romance can be fast and furious without any expectations. Of course, youíll love each other forever and of course youíll exchange email addresses, but love as you know it ends on the last day of camp Ė sweet, memorable, but unassuming.
The Freedom to Romance
As much as I love my friends, Iíll readily admit that at times their opinions of who I should like and if a guy
is worthy of affection can influence my behavior or how I act around him. If my friends donít like him, itís a lot harder to flirt and enjoy time with a boy, even if I like him. But over the summer, things are so much looser. My friends arenít around me all of the time and although I donít let them make up my mind for me, itís so much nicer to be free of their opinions and comments about who I choose to like and chat with over those summer months.
The school months are fun in their own way, but they always feel very heavy to me. I get through most of those months, but I enjoy the summer months more. Iím lighter, freer and more fun to be around. This summer is when I work hard to improve myself and my life and having a bit of love in the mix can help me do exactly that. Being relaxed and able to enjoy a relationship properly gives me the confidence I need to commit to being a better me and just enjoying life as it comes.